It can be so frustrating sometimes when someone doesn’t have the same thinking as you.. Especially when you’re a big time old fashioned romantic and the other person is completely otherwise.. And when you have to TELL someone how to be romantic.. that just takes the whole point out of the entire thing, doesn’t it? =/
And sometimes, I feel hesitant about telling my partner exactly what I want them to do or expect of them, because I don’t want to seem pushy and for whatever the reason, give them the mindset that I don’t like them for who they are. I’m hell-bent on that because I know what it feels like to be constantly nagged at because apparently I’m ‘not doing things right’.
And also, I’ve had one who told me to ‘be honest with him’ because if I didn’t, he ‘wouldn’t know how I was feeling and we wouldn’t be able to compromise and work it out’
And lemme tell you that when I did, this person got annoyed and in the end, we broke up. == So yeah, I’ve scratched that opinion out.
I dunno about all the other girls, but for me, if you have to TELL your partner HOW to be romantic, that already completely removes the whole point of being romantic: doing something sweet randomly for your partner that he/she doesn’t know about, just to show him/her that you love them.
And I absolutely HATE guys, especially, who defend themselves by saying that they’ve been giving their girls/wives all the money they want all this while to get whatever they want.
TRUE LOVE IS NOT ABOUT MONEY!
Love can NEVER be bought!
It frustrates me to no end. I can admit here that I’ve only ever had ONE boyfriend who was a little bit romantic, but he turned out to be crazy about money; which is my main and major pet peeve in a partner.
I don’t know why I still stay so naive after all these years… Taking chances on guys thinking that I could possibly change their level of ‘romantic-ness’. I always tell myself that I won’t settle for anything less next time, but I end up falling for a guy because he’s ‘nice and caring’ EVERY TIME, and then later get disappointed that hey, REALITY CHECK, they’re only romantic when they’re courting you! Once they’ve got you, all those over-the-top romantic gestures and attempts dissolve just like that. And I also HATE people who say that the reason they don’t shower their partners with flowers and all is because if they did that every time, it would lose its ‘appeal’ and not be ‘special’ anymore.
I mean come on, WHAT THE FUCK??
I’m not asking you to LAVISH her with expensive gifts everyday, because if she’s anything like me, I appreciate the small things; the small gestures. It doesn’t have to be a BIG TIME love profession every single day… just a small gesture, perhaps, that tells her you think about her the whole time.
AND NO, IT DOESN’T INVOLVE TRYING TO GET IN HER PANTS.
I hate people like that even more. Your partner will think that you’re only still with her because you want sex from her, and are maybe too much of a stingy bastard to go out and find prostitutes. ==
There, I said it point blank. It’s harsh, but I’m giving it to y’all as it is.
It makes me think that in the future, if my partner is not at least A BIT romantic (AFTER the courtship period, that is. Maybe I would go find out from his friends or people that know him), I would cross out the possibility of ever going further than friends with him. I don’t want my heart to be disappointed again. My poor heart has taken ONE TOO MANY disappointments already throughout the years.