I have just recently finished The Charm Bracelet by Melissa Hill. It’s funny because I just decided on that book by impulse at first as my holiday read, but when I went through my other books and found another possible holiday read (a Nicholas Sparks’ piece), I debated for the longest time about which to pick. But I was somehow pulled to The Charm Bracelet for some reason.
It was addictive, and I found myself reading it faster than I thought I would. I had to refrain from reading it too quickly for fear of finishing it and having no other reading material on holiday. But I couldn’t help but realise the message that the book may be telling me. I should also probably mention that I believe in fate.
Let’s start from the beginning of why I thought that this story was telling me something, shall we?
I have always been a person who wanted fast results: be it in health or relationships. If I exercised, I wanted to see at least a bit of results within a week. If I took some medication, I expected to feel a difference in the equal amount of time. If I don’t feel/see a difference, I’d take it as it doesn’t work for me. In relationships, I want the guy to know off the bat that I’m what he wants and that he chooses me. If he needs time to work it out, I’d think that he wasn’t serious with me and just saw me as something to ‘occupy his time’. Maybe I’ve read too many novels, and have been planted with the idea of a typical ‘ideal relationship’; where the guy falls head-over-heels in love with the girl and does all he can to keep her and assure her of his love. He shows her all the time what she means to him, and showers her with love.
While I am patient with a good number of things, I admit that these are the few things that I can get impatient with. Maybe because health-wise, it takes such a short amount for me to put on weight or to get out of shape. Relationship-wise, I tend to fall fast and hard. I haven’t had the best of luck in relationships either, (I always say I have men repellant) so naturally when I come across a good catch, I’d want to cement things and expect the same treatment from the guy years on in our relationship as when he first wanted to ‘catch’ me.
And I’ll admit that I’m also the kind of person who craves attention from a boyfriend. I’d want him to send texts throughout the day and/or call me when we’re not together. I don’t need presents and shits but I do need to know that I’m on his mind as much as he’s on mine, because otherwise, I’d feel like, once again, I’m the one doing all the ‘making-things-work’ shit.
Now for the part where the book taught me something. ( I can literally see you guys sighing in relief, like ‘FINALLY!’)
For the next 4 paragraphs, there will be SPOILERS to the book. If you haven’t read it yet or don’t want to know what happens, skip them.
Nick and Holly are, as I’d put it, estranged. I think it’s safe to say that they they hate each other. Nick didn’t even want anything to do with their son Danny. But the thing is, when they were dating, everything was peachy. Sure, in the book, you could see the little warning signs, but I think we would all forgive Holly for ignoring it as we all would probably have too if we were the ones in her shoes.
What I’m saying is that they were both madly in love with each other from the off. They found each other irresistible. Nick did things to make Holly swoon and Holly drove Nick equally crazy.
Basically what happened is the opposite of what should happen. They went from being madly in love with each other to not being able to stand each other. And it got me thinking.
Maybe that’s the reason why relationships have never worked for me. Because I expect everything to be all peachy and lovey-dovey quickly, and stay that way for many years to come. I should realise that when something goes one way real fast, it probably would go the other way just as fast too.
I can say that my current relationship is taking the longest to unfurl. Not in the sense you’re probably thinking about; rather, it’s taking time for him to actually warm up to me emotionally. And I admit that I’ve been quite impatient about it at first because, as I said, I’m the kind that wants results fast.
But as I’m finding out, things are unfurling slowly, but surely. Sure, the future is still uncertain, (though if it was up to me, I’d want to seal it, if you get what I mean) but I’m learning that sometimes, as much as I want immediate results, I have to be patient and let things unfold at their own time.
Everything happens for a reason, and they happen for a purpose; to make me grow. I’m not religious by any means, but I do believe that the Big Man up there has a plan for me. The Charm Bracelet has taught me that having things happen gradually instead of being all wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am may not be a bad thing after all.